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November 17, 2010

The Spiritual Relationship… Challenge

11/17/10
Hu Dalconzo- Spiritual Life Coach & Founder

Many spiritual traditions teach that being in any kind of relationship is the… “most rigorous spiritual practice we can undertake.” This is because relationships force us to confront both what is easy and what is difficult to accept about our inner nature.

Spiritual relationships offer us an opportunity to own both the positive and negative elements about what our relationship beliefs mirror back to us.

Sadly, I often go unconscious to how my spiritual relationships mirror back to me my positive characteristics that I have yet to “own.” Meaning, the positive aspects of my Self that I have yet to claim or fully express as part of my Godlike nature.

According to Carl Jung, relationships are a crucible in which we “project” both positive and negative aspects of ourselves. He states, “To confront a person with their ‘shadow side’ is to show them their inner light.”

Spiritual relationships challenge us to love differently, by not controlling or possessing others, and also by not permitting ourselves to be controlled or possessed by others. To do this without withholding our love, while “walking our spiritual talk” as openly and lovingly as possible is, as my former staff member stated, “hard.”

Learning to love differently is “hard” because it requires us to love with hands and hearts wide open. To love openly without any posturing or hidden agendas is “hard” because it forces us to live by a different set of rules than most of us were taught in childhood.

Love that grows from emotional integrity, trust and intimacy without restraint or defense supports mutual freedom and growth. It opens an inner doorway that allows our spiritual relationships to bloom and, as it does, we get to feel and experience… the closet thing to heaven on earth.

Hu Dalconzo

by admin | 18 Comments

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  • Shawna B. McLean on December 30, 2010 at 10:07 pm | Reply |

    It takes lots of practice to learn to let my spirit guide me and I am willing and waiting.


  • Jewel Mooney on December 23, 2010 at 10:30 pm | Reply |

    I am working through some anger that I have from my last spiritual relationship. As I look at what this relationship has mirrored back to me, I am grateful that I am starting to become conscious of what my ego is saying to me vs. my Spirit. I can’t walk the talk until I’ve detached through the process of forgiveness because until I’ve forgiven, truly forgiven, then I am still being controlled and possessed and my EGO is running the show. Meaning, my Spirit connection will be so strong that I will always be open to feeling my healing feelings and by doing that I am walking emotional integrity, trust and intimacy without restraint. I am opening myself up to the gifts of the Universe.


  • Nona Mills on December 22, 2010 at 8:50 pm | Reply |

    The more I am in touch with my God-self, the easier it is to love my husband and allow him to do what he does and be what he is. If ‘as is’ IS God’s will, then I must allow all that IS to BE; without resistance and EGO defense. My spiritual practice brings me closer to frequencies of love for longer periods of time and I am able to stay conscious to God’s will, even relationships.


  • Eileen Dulak on December 6, 2010 at 10:25 am | Reply |

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  • Carolyn Klabin on November 30, 2010 at 7:25 pm | Reply |

    I asked myself, “Why haven’t I ever noticed this before? What else have I not noticed and have yet to perceive that will enrich my perception?” This gave me pause, and caused me to wonder about all the subtle, yet profound ‘perceptions’ in my life, that I might have ignored as I bounded about my everydays. I’ll interchange, the term ‘perceptions’ with ‘levels of reality’, which may potentially enlighten me to the wisdom I’d be blessed to receive. So many levels of reality filled with wisdom for me to contemplate in this gift that is my life. Namaste`…..Love, Carolyn Klabin on Nov. 30th @ 2:21 p.m.


  • sales strategy on November 30, 2010 at 5:20 pm | Reply |

    One word.. Great! Two words.. Very awesome!


  • DC on November 30, 2010 at 3:42 pm | Reply |

    The more I am in touch with my God-self, the easier it is to love my husband and allow him to do what he does and be what he is. If ‘as is’ IS God’s will, then I must allow all that IS to BE; without resistance and EGO defense. My spiritual practice brings me closer to frequencies of love for longer periods of time and I am able to stay conscious to God’s will, even relationships.


  • Anna Lee on November 30, 2010 at 3:09 am | Reply |

    When I am in my Spirit, I will not find it “hard” to give or receive love because I will just be love. I will not experience me versus others. I will experience oneness and its perfection.


  • MT on November 30, 2010 at 1:49 am | Reply |

    Have to agree with your former staff member it is “hard.”


  • Nina on November 29, 2010 at 10:23 pm | Reply |

    As we work on what is perceived as ” hard” we find with practice that relationships and spiritual relationships become easier automatically giving permission for those around us to do the same.

    Namaste.
    (This is a test. Only a test. :) )


  • DS on November 29, 2010 at 3:29 pm | Reply |

    It takes spiritual practice to not control or possess in a realtionship. When I learn to let my spirit guide me, then my ego won’t have the power to control or possess


  • Deborah Giddings on November 29, 2010 at 2:02 pm | Reply |

    I am working through some anger that I have from my last spiritual relationship. As I look at what this relationship has mirrored back to me, I am grateful that I am starting to become conscious of what my ego is saying to me vs. my Spirit. I can’t walk the talk until I’ve detached through the process of forgiveness because until I’ve forgiven, truly forgiven, then I am still being controlled and possessed and my EGO is running the show. Meaning, my Spirit connection will be so strong that I will always be open to feeling my healing feelings and by doing that I am walking emotional integrity, trust and intimacy without restraint. I am opening myself up to the gifts of the Universe.


  • Allie Stack on November 24, 2010 at 3:20 am | Reply |

    I think that true soul mates, whether friends or family are the people in your life who love you unconditionally even when the inner self exposes unpleasant vulnerabilities or qualities. It can be a tough pill to swallow but at the end of the day, you’ve gained so much more wisdom by seeing the other side of the mirror. Once you learn to love and accept that side, the relationship will thrive on that integrity, trust and intimacy.


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