Recovery/12 Steps Series – Step 7

How to Walk the 12 Steps with the HuMethod™ Article 8

Humbly asked Him to remove my shortcomings…

By Dis-creating My Emotional Baggage

By Certified Life Coach Deborah Giddings

Namasté soul friends,

With Step 7, I’ve come to the part in my recovery where I’m ready to accept and release what no longer serves me.  I turn to the God of my understanding and ask for help.  (Throughout this blog I use the word God.  If the word God does not resonate for you, please substitute whatever word or words that you associate with to describe the life force energy of the Universe.)

As I start this step I look at the words Remove (dis-create) and Shortcomings (less than perfect behavior).  To me Remove means to put at a distance.  Shortcomings is another way of saying I came up short, didn’t quite make the mark.  So when I’m asking to have my shortcomings removed, I’m asking that what no longer serves (where I may have missed the mark) be put at a distance so that I can connect with my Spirit and take a different course.  Adding the HuMethod™ exercise of Dis-creation,
I can see where my ego had me in a struggle between my divine ability to be a conscious creator, and my mental roadblocks and emotional baggage (resistance), and therefore kept me walking the same path over and over again.

Dis-creation is a compound word that means…To consciously stop RECREATING negatively programmed beliefs and then to consciously create what it is that I do want to create.  Negative beliefs aren’t good or bad, right or wrong, they just are!  I went through most of my life hauling around a lot of useless emotional baggage because I didn’t know how to free myself.  I practiced my steps and they gave me a lot of freedom, but my core foundational beliefs were still with me,
and every time I was triggered my ego would say things like “I’ll never get this right” or “I’m not good enough” or “I’ve slipped back to Step 1”.  None of these statements are true.

I know today that as long as I stay in my ego-mind judging everything as right, wrong, good or bad, I am no longer in harmony with my higher Self, the God of my understanding.  In order for me to start consciously creating, I need to bring both a positive and negative charge of energy into existence.

As I continue my Journey Home to my Self, I follow three Laws of Self-mastery:

  1. Nothing changes until it becomes what it is….Love.  Nothing changes until I unconditionally accept what is “as is” (quoted from the HuMan Handbook)Personally this means that when I accept people, places and things as they are, with no judgment, then I’m connecting to my Spirit and am then able to move forward from a place of Love and all things become possible.
  2. No two objects can occupy the same space at the same time; therefore I am either resonating Love
    or Fear.
     In recovery this means I can’t deny that I have been affected by alcoholism and then say that I have not been affected.  When I’m doing this I’m in FEAR (Frantic Effort to Appear Recovered) and my ego-mind tells me that I am resonating Love.
  3. My beliefs create my reality. This means that I create my reality based on my beliefs, even if what I believe is
    true, false, painful, or not relevant to whom I am now.  In program we call them ‘triggers’.  When I’m triggered it’s because my ego has pulled something out my history and has me now unconsciously involuntarily replicating a behavior pattern that used to keep me safe but no longer serves me, and I’m getting the same result over and over again.  Have you ever said, “Why is this happening to me again!”

When Dis-creating along with the Conscious Creation Process I am able to manifest my desires.  I create from the unseen to the seen … from the invisible to the visible.  I used to think I was my thoughts, but I’m not my thoughts, I’m a creator of my thoughts, and therefore I am FREE to think any thoughts I want.  I can think thoughts of love, healing, and prosperity or I can let my ego mind drive me down the road of fear, lack and dis-ease.

The dis-creation process was developed to teach all of us how to effectively deal with our core negative beliefs.   I wasn’t  consciously aware of these core negative beliefs because they were so basic to my way of thinking that I didn’t even realize it was a belief at all.  I just assumed that “it’s just the way life is.”  It was as if I was walking through life trying to hold a beach ball under water and having my ego mind tell me that everyone lives like this. As soon as I become aware of what my beliefs were creating, I let go of the beach ball and it popped up out of the water.  What relief and freedom!

Today I know that I can’t dis-create what I can’t feel or hear myself sub-vocalize and so I align myself with my feelings and use my feelings as a Spirit guide to let me know when I am creating.

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Deborah Giddings, CSLC and Recovery Trainer
If you seek Recovery Coaching help for yourself or for a family member, if you are an HLC CSLC or CIT, an addiction counselor or a recovery coach, or if you are in Al-Anon, AA, OA, GA, NA, SLAA and you want to mastermind with Deborah you can contact
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