If You Can't Define What a Spiritual Relationship is. You Can't Have One!
by Hu Dalconzo
Spiritual Relationships are the closest thing
to heaven that you can experience on earth.
 A spiritual
relationship is formed when two (or more) people come together, as equals,
for the purpose of spiritual growth. Within a Spiritual Relationship,
both parties agree that nothing is more important than their spiritual
evolution. Spiritual relationships create a synergy, which enables each
partner to spiritually evolve faster than they could alone. This divine
energy is what I believe Jesus was referring to when he said, "Where
two or more are gathered in my name!"
One of the best ways for you to support your spiritual growth is to be
in a relationship with someone who wants to create a "partnership" that
is emotionally intimate and spiritually conscious. Spiritual relationships
accelerate your Self-mastery growth process because they create a space
where it is safe to feel what you are feeling. No matter how long you've
been on a spiritual path, sooner or later you must "get off your knees"
and apply what you have learned.
SPIRITUAL PARTNERS help each other stay conscious to the fact that they
are "in the world, but not of the world." I once heard Ram Dass
use a humorous term to describe this, he called it "Nobody Training."
Nobody training means to stay consciously aware that the human identities
that you use in daily life (father, doctor, teacher etc.) are what you
do, not who you are. You are a spiritual being who uses many different
human identities (roles) to function on the earth plane. The Itivuttaka
Sutta describes nobody training this way, "the one who beholds that which
has become, as become passes beyond that becoming and is released from
craving for sensation. In that which really is, he understands becoming.
Free from longing for birth or death, he finds the true meaning of the
end of becoming."
When you fall asleep spiritually by getting caught up in the many dramas
of your life, hopefully your spiritual partner will be able to notice
and know how to signal you in some way, which helps you to reawaken to
the fact that you are "in the world, but not of the world."
RELATIONSHIP MASTERY is not something that happens on a secluded mountaintop;
that's renunciation! Mastery happens in the midst of life. It is rising
above the petty old world relationship models, not escaping from them.
Instead, we need to emotionally elevate them to a higher form of communication.
Relationship mastery means to reach beyond your FEAR IDENTITIES, with
a committed spiritual partner, to create an environment rich in love,
honesty, and trust. This spiritually rich environment creates emotional
intimacy, which makes your life feel more like you are in heaven, rather
than on earth!
There are many different kinds of relationships: father-son, mother-daughter,
daughter-father, son-mother, husband-wife, friends, soul mates, spiritual
business partnerships, brother-sister, significant others, and career/work-place
relationships. With a willing partner, you can transform each of these
relationships into a consciously awakened, spiritually based, loving
relationship!
Your HEART CHAKRA1 will keep opening as you consciously develop spiritually
awakened, loving relationships. Openness is the foundational core
of loving relationships. There is no better way to open your heart
chakra than through inter-communications with people who are creating
consciously awakened SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIPS.
A SPIRITUALLY CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP is a covenant based on the highest
degree of truth and integrity. You recognize your equality by acknowledging
that you are both unique manifestations of the same Spirit. This awareness
allows you to see past any negative human identities (roles) that may
emerge. Instead, you focus on the Spirit within you. When you are in Spirit,
you are ONE with the Universe and therefore you can experience a Namaste2
relationship. You bond with the understanding that you are together because
it is appropriate for your souls to grow together. You consciously recognize
that you are both in the process of spiritual growth, and that a commitment
to be emotionally honest is essential.
EMOTIONAL HONESTY takes courage. This courage is built upon TRUST, which
develops as partners learn, through experience, that within the relationship
it's emotionally safe to share their feelings. This trust and emotional
safety allows you to be EMOTIONALLY INTIMATE.
I first became awakened to the difference between "old world" co-dependent
relationships and the "new world" inter-dependent relations after reading
Gary Zukav's book, The Seat of the Soul. Gary taught me that SPIRITUAL
RELATIONSHIPS are much freer then the "old world models," because spiritual
relationships allow you to leave behind the stereotypical roles that existed
merely for survival. By leaving these roles behind, you align yourself
with the Universal Spirit for the evolution of your immortal soul. By
making the choice to be in a consciously awakened, spiritual relationship,
you are choosing to respond to your partner with compassion and love,
instead of doubt and fear.
SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIPS create INTIMACY, which in turn provides a safe
space where you can willingly surrender your ego defenses. In such
a relationship, you feel free to share your innermost secrets, repressed
feelings, and emotions. This creates a sacred space where it feels
safe to be emotionally vulnerable. This spiritually secure
space allows you to feel safe enough to open up emotionally and share
with your partner your innermost thoughts and feelings. In this divine
space, you are free to stand emotionally naked, with no mind games or
premeditated thoughts, which allow you to communicate the truth of
your being.
Spiritual partners DO NOT commit to having "perfect" behavior. What they
DO commit to is owning their "imperfect" behavior as quickly as humanly
possible.
RELATIONSHIP MASTERY requires you to educate yourself about the ways in
which your spiritual partners were emotionally wounded. With this knowledge
you can help them heal by avoiding words or deeds that unconsciously trigger
feelings that are still very tender. Also, you need to view your spiritual
partner as your best counselor rather than your worst critic. This is
because your partner will mirror back to you that which you most need
in order to heal emotionally. Remember that intimacy creates emotional
safety and when people feel safe, their passion comes alive!
Namaste, my soul friends..... Hu Dalconzo
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