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October 10, 2011

Recovery/ 12 Steps Series – Step 4

How to Walk the 12 Steps with the HuMethod™ Article 5

Making a Searching and Fearless Moral Inventory …
Feeling the Benefits

By Certified Life Coach Deborah

Namasté Soul Friends,

It feels so good to have you join me on this journey.  I am feeling the ‘inner net’ of ONE consciousness as we join together on the Internet.  In my last article I spoke about the seven pieces of self-parenting.  One of these pieces is to learn how to unconditionally love and accept myself without behavioral conditions especially when I exhibit less than perfect behavior (not that this has ever happened –lol).

This was an important distinction for me to learn as I took my 4th step and “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself.” It reduced the intensity of the ‘fear’ so that I could honestly accept and see that what happened really happened which allowed me to see, feel and heal the emotional wounds caused by living with a disease called alcoholism.

When I walked this next step in my journey with the HuMethod™ Language of Feelings exercises in the textbook Self-Mastery, A Journey Home to your Self”, I learned how to ingest, digest, process and eliminate repressed feelings.   I used to ‘think my feelings’ meaning that my ego-mind was always telling me what I was feeling but I wasn’t feeling anything, I was shut down emotionally.  I was reacting from my thoughts, instead of responding from my heart.   This ‘thinking’ kept me tied to my history rather than being in the Now and feeling and releasing my repressed feelings.  When I took Step 2 I was given hope that I would be restored to sanity, and I wanted it. I now know that in addition to the benefits that I received from my 12-step work, I needed to master how to consciously feel and release my healing feelings so I live in peace and have serenity (my definition of sanity).

I just want to remind you that these HuMethod™ exercises don’t replace the proven 12 Steps. They are a bridge that you can take that will introduce you to advanced tools to enhance and accelerate your recovery journey.  This particular
exercise was a bridge that I didn’t know how to walk over until I was willing to feel what needed to be healed.  As I said earlier, I processed my life through my thinking mind (intellect) first and my heart (feelings) second.  My ego-mind was my God and I was letting this thinking mind use my past history to make all of my current and future decisions.  I realized that I was seeing through pinhole eyes because I was not drawing upon the Infinite Wisdom of my Higher Power.

The Language of Feelings is the language of my intuitive Self!  My heart feels intuitive messages that are sent to me by Spirit (my Higher Power).  When these messages are uncomfortable feelings, my Spirit is trying to tell me that I am out of harmony with my Self. When I block these healing feelings, I am blocking all of the benefits that are coming to me.  Benefits such as being able to have good boundary defenses, self-acceptance, grieving my losses, having closure when something ends (and there’s so many more).  When I continue to resist, repress, minimize or deny my feelings, I disconnect myself from my Self.  When I decided to Commit, Study, Practice, Internalizing and Emotionalize (S-PIE) the Language of Feelings self-mastery exercises, I learned to honor my feelings, face them, embrace them and then release them.

When I connect with my heart, and start to process my life through my feelings, I understand why I am feeling the way I am feeling.  My heart feels my Spirit giving me the purpose for this feeling.  Once I understand the message from my Spirit
about why I am feeling what I am feeling, I am then able to process the feeling using wisdom gained from my life experiences.

The Spiritual Distinction Meditation helped me to master my Ego (thinking) mind and opened my heart.  It helped me to detach from the extrinsic aspects of daily life and quieted my mind so that I could hear what my intuitive heart was trying to tell me.

Using the Language of Feelings along with the 4th step, I started to feel better than I have ever felt before.  Processing my life through my feelings is 90% more efficient than thinking, and so I have much more energy to manifest all of my hopes and dreams.

Join me next time as I share how I started to develop more intimate Spiritual Relationships applying the HuMethod™ exercises along with Step 5.    Keep coming – it works if you work it!

If you are interested in learning more about the Language of Feelings, click onto any of the hyperlinks in this article or log onto Holistic Learning Center’s web page and don’t forget to…

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Deborah Giddings, CSLC and Recovery Trainer

If you seek Recovery Coaching help for yourself or for a family member, if you are an HLC CSLC or CIT, an addiction counselor or a recovery coach, or if you are in Al-Anon, AA, OA, GA, NA, SLAA and you want to mastermind with Deborah you can contact
Deborah directly via her email debcoaching11@yahoo.com.  Deborah is also available for speaking engagements to share how her recovery journey was transformed by emotionalizing the HuMethod™ exercises.

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by admin | 13 Comments

  • Diane C on October 24, 2011 at 7:44 pm | Reply |

    The first time I saw the Feelings Chart was in the Self-Mastery text book. In my opinion, it is one of the most amazing things I have ever seen. As a child, I remember being told to count to 3 when I got mad…………..but there was no mention of what to do in that 3 seconds, nor what the benefits were of feeling angry. I remember being told not to slam doors when I was angry, or yell at my siblings when I was mad. What I wasn’t taught until I saw the feelings chart was: How to recognize my boundaries, How to set my boundaries, and How to express my boundaries in a healthy, mature way so that the situation would not happen over and over and over. So throughout the years, I was usually creating the same situations over and over so that I could prove I was right; other people were always crossing my boundaries………and it THEIR fault that I was mad! Wow, this was a real eye-opener, and I uncovered it by working with a Life Coach at HLC. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I now have a way to look at my Healing Feelings in a whole new light. What powerful recovery I have found expanding my seeking of a Spiritual Experience. This is ‘good stuff.’

  • Cathy on October 16, 2011 at 5:48 pm | Reply |

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  • Tina Cox on October 13, 2011 at 9:20 pm | Reply |

    I have been sober for 5 years now, and this is a great addtion to the 12-step program which has really helped me. I’m going to be studying the website better and come back for the next article. Thank you for sharing.

  • Clark on October 13, 2011 at 5:20 pm | Reply |

    Wow, this is really informative 🙂

  • Aubrie on October 12, 2011 at 10:26 am | Reply |

    You pretty much said what i could not effectively communicate. TY

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  • Karen Hasselo on October 11, 2011 at 5:06 pm | Reply |

    My favorite line in Article 5 is, “I realized that I was seeing through pin hole eyes because I was not drawing upon the Infinite Wisdom of my Higher Power.” I hope I can learn to expand my vision as I come to rely upon my Higher Power.
    I enjoyed the heartfelt words.
    Karen Hasselo

  • Nick Fisch on October 11, 2011 at 10:21 am | Reply |

    You made some good points there. I my next step is to explore the rest of this website. 🙂

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