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November 22, 2011

Recovery/12 Steps Series – Step 7

How to Walk the 12 Steps with the HuMethod™ Article 8

Humbly asked Him to remove my shortcomings…

By Dis-creating My Emotional Baggage

By Certified Life Coach Deborah Giddings

Namasté soul friends,

With Step 7, I’ve come to the part in my recovery where I’m ready to accept and release what no longer serves me.  I turn to the God of my understanding and ask for help.  (Throughout this blog I use the word God.  If the word God does not resonate for you, please substitute whatever word or words that you associate with to describe the life force energy of the Universe.)

As I start this step I look at the words Remove (dis-create) and Shortcomings (less than perfect behavior).  To me Remove means to put at a distance.  Shortcomings is another way of saying I came up short, didn’t quite make the mark.  So when I’m asking to have my shortcomings removed, I’m asking that what no longer serves (where I may have missed the mark) be put at a distance so that I can connect with my Spirit and take a different course.  Adding the HuMethod™ exercise of Dis-creation,
I can see where my ego had me in a struggle between my divine ability to be a conscious creator, and my mental roadblocks and emotional baggage (resistance), and therefore kept me walking the same path over and over again.

Dis-creation is a compound word that means…To consciously stop RECREATING negatively programmed beliefs and then to consciously create what it is that I do want to create.  Negative beliefs aren’t good or bad, right or wrong, they just are!  I went through most of my life hauling around a lot of useless emotional baggage because I didn’t know how to free myself.  I practiced my steps and they gave me a lot of freedom, but my core foundational beliefs were still with me,
and every time I was triggered my ego would say things like “I’ll never get this right” or “I’m not good enough” or “I’ve slipped back to Step 1”.  None of these statements are true.

I know today that as long as I stay in my ego-mind judging everything as right, wrong, good or bad, I am no longer in harmony with my higher Self, the God of my understanding.  In order for me to start consciously creating, I need to bring both a positive and negative charge of energy into existence.

As I continue my Journey Home to my Self, I follow three Laws of Self-mastery:

  1. Nothing changes until it becomes what it is….Love.  Nothing changes until I unconditionally accept what is “as is” (quoted from the HuMan Handbook). Personally this means that when I accept people, places and things as they are, with no judgment, then I’m connecting to my Spirit and am then able to move forward from a place of Love and all things become possible.
  2. No two objects can occupy the same space at the same time; therefore I am either resonating Love
    or Fear.
    In recovery this means I can’t deny that I have been affected by alcoholism and then say that I have not been affected.  When I’m doing this I’m in FEAR (Frantic Effort to Appear Recovered) and my ego-mind tells me that I am resonating Love.
  3. My beliefs create my reality. This means that I create my reality based on my beliefs, even if what I believe is
    true, false, painful, or not relevant to whom I am now.  In program we call them ‘triggers’.  When I’m triggered it’s because my ego has pulled something out my history and has me now unconsciously involuntarily replicating a behavior pattern that used to keep me safe but no longer serves me, and I’m getting the same result over and over again.  Have you ever said, “Why is this happening to me again!”

When Dis-creating along with the Conscious Creation Process I am able to manifest my desires.  I create from the unseen to the seen … from the invisible to the visible.  I used to think I was my thoughts, but I’m not my thoughts, I’m a creator of my thoughts, and therefore I am FREE to think any thoughts I want.  I can think thoughts of love, healing, and prosperity or I can let my ego mind drive me down the road of fear, lack and dis-ease.

The dis-creation process was developed to teach all of us how to effectively deal with our core negative beliefs.   I wasn’t  consciously aware of these core negative beliefs because they were so basic to my way of thinking that I didn’t even realize it was a belief at all.  I just assumed that “it’s just the way life is.”  It was as if I was walking through life trying to hold a beach ball under water and having my ego mind tell me that everyone lives like this. As soon as I become aware of what my beliefs were creating, I let go of the beach ball and it popped up out of the water.  What relief and freedom!

Today I know that I can’t dis-create what I can’t feel or hear myself sub-vocalize and so I align myself with my feelings and use my feelings as a Spirit guide to let me know when I am creating.

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Deborah Giddings, CSLC and Recovery Trainer
If you seek Recovery Coaching help for yourself or for a family member, if you are an HLC CSLC or CIT, an addiction counselor or a recovery coach, or if you are in Al-Anon, AA, OA, GA, NA, SLAA and you want to mastermind with Deborah you can contact
Deborah directly via her email debcoaching11@yahoo.com. Deborah is also available for speaking engagements to share how her recovery journey was transformed by emotionalizing the HuMethod™ exercises.

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    November 7, 2011

    Recovery/ 12 Steps Series – Step 6

    How to Walk the 12 Steps with the HuMethod™ Article 7

    We’re Entirely Ready to Have God Remove These Defects of Character …

    By Knowing the Seven Spiritual Truths

    By Certified Life Coach Deborah Giddings

    Namasté soul friends,

    I was going to do this Step 6 blog on ‘validation’ but Spirit spoke and I am being directed towards sharing with you how the HuMethod’sSeven Spiritual Truths have helped me navigate out of my ego’s mental maze of confusion into an acceptance of my divine birthright.

    Whenever I am starting another step in my program, I take a look at the words in the Step and ask my Self if I really know what they mean.  Take the word ‘defect’.  I used to think that a defect meant that there was something inherently wrong with me – defective, not whole.  This definition was used by my ego to tell me over and over again that I was not good enough, that I didn’t have enough or that I didn’t do enough.  So I looked the word up and here’s what it means:  “The lack of something necessary or desirable for completion.”  Today I know that a defect is my ego blocking me from being who I am – a perfect adult of God.

    When I meditated on how my E.G.O. blocks me and how these ‘blocks’ keep me trapped in a mental maze of ego-confusion, I saw that when I am willing to look at my ego-based delusions with emotional courage, truth and honesty, I am no longer blocked because I Am in harmony with the real inner me.   I turn to the Seven Spiritual Truths to help me navigate out of this ego confusion.

    Truth One“I have never made a mistake because I am Incapable of error or failure” tells me that I have done what I have done and allowed others to do what they do in order to learn, grow and evolve spiritually.  I’ve learned in program
    that I don’t create a crisis and I don’t stop one from happening if it’s in the natural course of events.   What I perceive as an error is a mental justification, an excuse, to deny what I did, or a reason to blame another for what happened.  My ego-mind second guesses my actions which makes me ‘think’ I am guilty or wrong.  I know today that everything I did, I did to evolve spiritually.

    Truth Two“Most of my core foundational beliefs are rooted in….F.E.A.R.” How could they not be?  I live in a fear-driven,‘survival-of-the-fittest’ society.  Add to this my caretakers, whose foundational beliefs were rooted in fear, unconsciously passed these foundational fear beliefs on to me.  As I take my journey home to my Self, now is the time to claim my birthright – JOY. In order to do that I must be willing to clean the slate of my mind from my limiting, Self-defeating programs that have hindered me since childhood.  This requires me to look at what is blocking me from being who I AM.

    Truth Three “I have no enemies…just lessons.” I know today that when I perceive someone as an enemy, I’m doing that to justify my fear-based intentions and to create an excuse as to why I ‘think’ I failed or even worse, why it’s okay to keep
    failing.  Assigning enemy status to someone or ‘something’ (like an addiction) allows me to go unconscious and  blocks me from the spiritual lesson that it was designed to teach me.  The worse I feel, the more enemies I’ll create, because as hard as it is to believe, these are actually teachers in disguise.

    Truth Four “As I spiritually ascend with truth, I bring to view more of my ego-based…avoidance patterns”. Every time I practice any of my steps I’m ascending. Have you ever gotten the feeling that sometimes it’s fruitless and pointless?  Do you sometimes feel like you’re never going to move forward?  I have.  This happens because if I’m unwilling to own the truth of what my ascension experience is allowing me to see, my false beliefs will cause me to involuntarily and consciously replicate the same pattern over and over again so that I receive another chance to see what Truth I denied so I can heal whatever needs to be healed or forgiven.  Yikes – so in order for me to ‘ascend’ I must be willing to Accept what is “as is”.  This requires me to See, Feel, and Correct my old fixed beliefs so that my life force energy is freed up.  Think of all of the energy it takes to hold a beach ball under water.  Once I let the ball up (accept the truth of what is “as is”) I am no longer struggling and I’ve freed up a lot of my own life force energy.

    Truth Five“I am never alone because…God is always with me.” There’s a difference between being “alone” and ‘feeling lonely’.  When I’m feeling lonely it’s because my ego has brought up unconscious negative beliefs and these beliefs make me feel separate instead of being interconnected.  When I am alone it’s a peaceful place for me to be – one with the God of my
    understanding, my Higher Power.

    Truth Six My spiritual growth requires….action.” How many times have I tried to NOT take the steps but receive the fruits of them?  I can think about things and talk about them, but I’ve got to walk the talk in order to bring them into expression.

    Truth Seven – “I have….God-like abilities”. I had a lot of trouble with this one in the beginning.  I now know that it was my EGO trying to keep me from letting my light shine. In my family of origin, I couldn’t let my light shine because if I did I was being vain or boastful or conceited – which were all ‘bad words’.  Today I know that I am made in the image and likeness of God, and therefore I have God-like abilities.  It took me a long time to learn the difference between ‘playing’ God and Be-ing God-like.  The following quote from The HuMan Handbook explains what I understand about having God-like abilities:

    “Live your life in such a way that those who know you,
    But who don’t know God, will come to know God,
    Because they know you.”

    If you are interested in learning more about The Seven Spiritual Truths, click any of the hyperlinks in this article or log onto Holistic Learning Center’s website and remember to…

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    “LIKE” Holistic Learning Center on Facebook Where you will receive daily coaching updates, words of wisdom, special savings offers, PLUS the opportunity to join the Inner-net of One Abundance Exchange Educational Program for Global Transformation
    Join me next time as I share how I learned to dis-create applying the HuMethod™ exercises along with Step 7.

    Keep coming – it works if you work it!

    Deborah Giddings, CSLC and Recovery Trainer
    If you seek Recovery Coaching help for yourself or for a family member, if you are an HLC CSLC or
    CIT, an addiction counselor or a recovery coach, or if you are in Al-Anon, AA, OA, GA, NA, SLAA and you want to mastermind with Deborah you can contact Deborah directly via her email debcoaching11@yahoo.com.  Deborah is also available for speaking engagements to share how her recovery journey was transformed by emotionalizing the HuMethod™ exercises.

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  • Sara on November 9, 2011 at 12:13 am | Reply |

    Thank you for writing this post. My friend recommended me to it. Thats such a great way to look at anything…break down the words and define what each piece means. There would probably be a lot less misinterpretation if we all did that.


  • HLC Staff on November 8, 2011 at 7:01 pm | Reply |

    Namaste Deborah, this is one of my favorite Blog articles so far. Great job!


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