In the newly released “Secret” the Law of Attraction is described as the force that inextricably governs our lives.  Simply stated human beings are like magnets, we attract to ourselves what we think about and fuel with our feelings; like attracting like.  The power of focus is poignantly brought home as we are urged not to think about or focus on what we do not want as that only draws to us more of the same.  Rather, we are instructed to passionately focus on what we do want and to feel that we already possess it in order to draw that into our lives.

This is sound advice. Yet it is not full proof. There is something missing here that

is tremendously important. What is missing is the fact (stated in the Secret as well)

that we attract to us what we think about whether we are conscious of it or not!

The reason why this is of inestimable importance is that we are not aware of up

to 95% of what goes through our minds and this is what we are attracting to ourselves

unbeknownst to us! We are attracting what we are, not what we want!

Hence the need for doing Self-mastery work on oneself in order to become conscious

of what is actually flowing through our minds; conscious of all of the false, limiting

beliefs, fears and paradigms that we carry as our unconscious programming. This is

indispensable for creating change in our lives. Self-mastery work can be defined as

becoming conscious of what we are now un-conscious of that affectively and

predominately runs our lives and determines who we are which determines the quality

of our lives. This means drudging up our past unpleasant experiences from childhood

and uncovering how these things continue to affect our lives today. 

Self-mastery entails learning how to become conscious of the unconscious ego

defenses we employ to keep our sanity as well as a sense of feeling safe in the

world. Self-mastery means learning how to drop these defenses so that we can feel

again. The ability to feel is key in order to process and release all of the repressed

pain and suffering we now carry as so much unwanted emotional baggage that keeps

re-circulating through our lives over and over again until we choose to dis-create it. 

All of these elements prevent us being who we want to be and from creating the life

we truly wish to live. Please understand that no amount of positive thinking will make

any of this go away as these things exist in a hidden and repressed manner, deep in

our sub and un-conscious minds. We must first free ourselves of our past conditioning

and fear based false limiting beliefs before the positive thinking encouraged in the

Secret can be fruitfully applied to our lives. 

There are no “quick fixes” in life, and nothing is for free. You know this to be so in

your heart of hearts. Honest clear sighted work on oneself takes courage, effort and

constant vigilance. Ceaseless practice is not for everyone. If you honestly have had

enough of the same old tired life, the suffering and mediocrity that you may now

be experiencing, if you have had enough of being governed by fear and limitations

and you honestly want to take charge of your life and change, then HLC is one avenue

that you owe to your self to explore because here the focus is on behavioral change

and mastery of our own mind. Self Mastery is not wishful thinking and is not engaged

in business for strictly material gain. Self-mastery is for true sanity, stability and

emotional maturity. It is for you, your core self, it is for your heart and your mind. 

When you are right with your self, all else is possible!

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Most of us were taught to believe things about ourselves and life that may appear to be true, but are not Truth. Truth with a capital “T” or Spiritual Truth is not defined in the dictionary, yet it is the foundation of Universal Law.  What you believe to be true is based upon what you have been taught by your caretakers and life experiences and is not usually Truth. This is an important distinction because awareness and understanding of Spiritual Truth is the core of Self-Empowerment. When I began my studies to become a Holistic

Spiritual Life Coach several years ago, I learned that by the time we are 5 or 6

years old all of our core foundational beliefs have been formed. When I read this

in my text book, I was shocked and a bit scared, because I had also learned that

my beliefs create my reality as revealed in “The Secret” and this meant that I am

creating my life based upon beliefs that certainly weren’t mine and probably were

not Truth. It scared me, because I knew this was going to take some work to

transcend, yet it resonated and gave me some clarity and hope.

These erroneous beliefs color everything we do based on the Law of Attraction

and most of us can’t even see them. So, we live our lives making unconscious

choices based upon what I call our old “programming” and most of the time that

just doesn’t feel good. Life is filled with self-help obstacles and erroneous

programming tops the list. No wonder we keep creating the same uncomfortable

and sometimes painful experiences over and over and find ourselves saying “Why

is this happening to me again?”

Now the good thing is that since I didn’t have much to do with creating my old

programmed beliefs, it wasn’t my fault. Whew! However, it is my responsibility to

commit to learning how to identify and delete the old programming and consciously

create new programs that bring me the reality and life experiences that I truly want

and feel good. I had to peel away the layers of the onion that was my belief system

to get to the core and look at it, understand it and rip it out. My studies became

“Karen-ology 101”, the study of why Karen does what she does, believes what she

believes, creates what she creates and so forth.

During my exploration of Karen-ology, I learned and studied The 7 Spiritual Truths

that are the core of Holistic Learning Center’s Self-Mastery teachings. These Truths

helped me navigate out of the mental maze I was calling my life and understand my

journey from a new perspective with emotional courage and honesty. I could look at

what I believed about myself, relationships, money, work, etc. and decide whether

or not my beliefs were really working for me. If they weren’t I could begin the process

of deleting the old programming and replacing it with new programming based upon

Truth and create the life that my heart truly desired, the life that I was worthy of.

For example, Truth One states:

You have never made a mistake because you are incapable

of error or failure.

"From the perspective of the infinite correlation of a perfectly evolving Universe,

I have done what I have done and allowed others to do what they did to me in order

to learn, grow and evolve spiritually……..PERIOD. It cannot be any other way." WOW!

No matter how many times I read that it still feels powerful. 

So, I have never made a mistake. I may have missed a few opportunities to learn, but

they weren’t mistakes; they were all very valuable and necessary lessons that I needed

to experience. Each and every experience I have created, I created with infinite precision

for the evolution of my immortal soul and the Universe in it’s wisdom has allowed me to

create my experiences over and over and over again until I get it!

You too are incapable of failure. What you perceive as error is either the burning off of

old karma or your spiritual evolution manifesting. An error or failure is just mental

justification, an excuse to deny what you did or a reason to blame another for what

happened. Your ego-mind will always second guess your actions and make you “think”

you are guilty, wrong or unworthy, or that someone else is and that you are just a

victim, which is never Truth. However it can be true if your beliefs have you

programmed to make such a choice.

So remember, there is no such thing as a mistake. Everything you have done and

experienced had a higher purpose----your spiritual evolution. Your life is a perfectly

orchestrated action plan for the evolution of your immortal soul----a soul that is on

a journey home to your true inner self!

Click here to learn more about The Seven Spiritual Truths.

Healing isn’t a science. There’s no time frame, control or variable as in an 8th grade experiment. There are no instructions that come with it. There are libraries of books on the topic, but when you get right down to it, healing happens differently for every person. Each of us has a different time table and different ways of expressing our pain. Often we feel powerless when we are trying to make sense out of a hurt.  However, what we don’t realize, what most of us have not been taught, is what to do in the aftermath.

There are some simple things we can do for ourselves and othersif we just get

“out of our own way.” By giving ourselves permission to FEEL the pain and

discomfort, we then stop resisting. It is when we stop resisting that the discomfort

will begin to stop. Think about when you have a headache, your neck is tight, your

jaw is clenched. But when you Relax, breathe deeper, and let the jaw drop, the pain

of the headache begins to disappear.

Think of your relationship with someone that has been persistently annoying. Every

time you see that person, have to talk with that person you immediately go into

dis-ease. Your mind says “I don’t like her.” “He is always ‘that way.’" Your mind is

on an ego trip! It will keep you in a fear-based mentality based on previous

experiences…and it may not even be THAT person with whom you had the original

mishap. But in BEING with that individual, the original experience is repeated time

and again.

So, you ask, “What am I to do?” You allow yourself to FEEL the pain, FEEL what is

bothering you and USE it as an opportunity to heal what was originally hurt. For

example, if I stub my toe and it hurts for 5 minutes…all I’ve done is stub my toe.

But! If it hurts for 5 hours, 5 days, 5 months, 5 years…I have an infected toe!! I

have a wound that was not healed a long time ago. And as the Scottish priest was

said, “It’s the ting, behind the ting, behind the ting.” The pain you are experiencing

now is something that happened a long time ago.

But why does it hurt more during times of celebration, the holidays, the birthdays

and anniversaries? Personally, I think these times are MEANT to do that very thing.

If we didn’t have something to jolt us out of our unconscious states, we’d never

have an opportunity to heal ourselves, our families, our co-workers, our community,

our planet. More healing happens because more pain & discomfort comes up. 

Just like a volcano that lays dormant or mildly active from time to time, so too do

we, human beings, act in much the very same way. We disallow ourselves to feel

the anger, frustration, and disappointment in our lives. We don’t give ourselves

permission to build healthy boundaries in order to keep ourselves from people who

we know may upset us or be in direct opposition to our values. We don’t go to the

right person, at the right time, and with the correct intensity to state our case.

Instead, we prefer to go to someone else, ally them with our thinking, thus “building

a case” for ourselves. And in so doing we now have our own army to help us defend

our positions, our rationalizations, our “right-ness.” Will we ever learn to communicate

willingly and diplomatically with one another?

That, my friends, will not happen until people allow themselves to Feel their Feelings

and let it be “okay.” That could take another several hundred thousand years while

warring peoples wipe one another out, or it could take only a decade for that to occur.

None of us can determine that so let’s look at the “aftermath.” Sometimes we can be

in the middle of a volcanic eruption and be “unconscious” to what’s really happening.

We’re so caught up with the drama of the intensity that we miss the real issue.

Our family, neighborhood, community, state or country can be in pain or crises and if

we don’t pay attention, how can we know what is really going on?

What about the climate of the relationship amongst the people involved? If we

unintentionally spew forth our wrath with others, if we say things at the wrong time

or place and with the wrong amount of intensity, we can do more damage and thus

take longer to repair, reinstate, and re-establish what had been there before.

I suggest this:

Feeling your Feelings. If you are angry, feel it. If you don’t you will go into the

emotional block of “Blame.” You will generally feel betrayed. Admit that you’re angry,

feel it and act on it in this manner:

1. Go to the right person
2. Go at the right time
3. Go with the right degree of intensity & explain your feelings
4. Use “I” statements…stay in 1st Party “I am so angry about…”

By using this method you will be more “conscious” of your own feelings and how

you use them. In time, the “The Law of Attraction” will ignite your conscious efforts

into ACTION by teaching someone else how to react appropriately because you

have given them permission to feel their own feelings by feeling your own. The

benefits are far reaching.

You feel better because you have built better boundaries for yourself. You “own”

your own feelings. You’ve taught someone else that it’s not so scary to say the

truth and you’ve taught someone else how to do the same. And in time, based on

the “The Law of Attraction,” your positive energy will have far greater success in

reaching people who are more interested in being “right” than in learning something.

Who knows, by putting our ego’s aside you may even impact the devastating

effects of one nation proving to be “more right” than the other. You could shorten

the “aftermath” of the volcano around this planet.

Click here to learn about the clinical research that proves self-help excercises really work.